Man breaks up with girlfriend, but expects her to move out of their shared apartment because he owns "more things," she kicks him out because she was there first: 'I gave him a month to pack'

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Sep 8, 2025 1:00 PM EDT

Making the decision to move in together is just the first of many down a tethered path of love and commitment with your partner. It's the beginning of something, and a sign of building a life together in the relationship. Though it can be filled with wonderful memories, a newfound love and energy, it's also terrifying to tie that knot and really commit. If you two have a fight, there's no out anymore. I'm happy that my partner and I have been living together for three years without any major issues. Of course, the moving and unpacking process was far from fun, but now we're properly settled and happy. In the story below, the couple didn't make it to the finish line. 

The man breaks up with his girlfriend. Breakups are bad enough, but when you live together, it's even worse. I was really hesitant to sign the lease together just for that reason. In the aftermath of their breakup, the two try and coordinate the move out process for one of them, but the big question is, who's going to move out? 

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    AITA for making my ex move out after they broke up with me?

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    One month ago, my long-term, live-in partner broke up with me. I was devastated, but it felt somewhat amicable at first because he convinced me he was
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    breaking up with me out of love. He didn't want to hurt me anymore and thought we were holding each other back from healing. He said he still loved me
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    but had been thinking about leaving for the past year. I had a feeling it was coming because my depre son had worsened due to
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    intense family issues, and we were constantly arguing about his refusal to do couples therapy. He believed my personal struggles
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    were affecting the relationship and that I needed to heal myself first.
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    Despite saying that he talked everything through with his therapist, he had no concrete plan for our living arrangements. He said he didn't want to
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    abandon me and would stay until we figured things out, but he was emotionally prepared to move in with his parents. During that week, he was the nicest he had
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    been to me in a long time and continued to act like my romantic partner. It felt like we could work things out, but when I brought it up, he said he was only doing it
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    to comfort me and that he had the energy to be nicer because we weren't together anymore. We realized that we couldn't share the same physical space anymore,
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    and he reluctantly agreed to go stay with his parents. I told him that he could just go for a few
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    days and come back, but he insisted that it was better to stay there.
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    He also suggested that he should be the one to stay in our house. I thought about it and decided I wanted to stay bc I lived there
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    first. He had assumed I'd move because he had "more stuff" and could afford the house on his own, but once it became clear he had to leave, he became hostile.
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    I gave him a month to pack, but he barely made progress and only came on the weekends. He wouldn't even really use boxes until I brought some. When I set a
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    firm deadline, he framed me as cruel and constantly complained about how stressed out he was and how much he hated staying at his parents' house. I eventually
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    packed up the rest of his stuff for him and gave it to him. That was the last time I saw him.
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    Since then, he has been telling people that I kicked him out and that he's now being forced to live with his parents. AITA?
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    AnnaBraun1 • 10h ago NTA. he ended things, so why would he expect to keep living there like nothing changed? u gave
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    him time and even helped pack his stuff when he stalled. calling it "getting kicked out" is just him trying to spin the story so he doesn't look bad
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    Bubbly_Chicken_9... • 10h ago That man wanted to cheat in peace. He thought he'd date and see other people but still keep you and your nice
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    homelife. Now he's annoyed that he's just a single guy living with his parents.
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    Can you afford the house alone? I hope so.
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  • It's hilarious that he thought she would just move out because he owns more things. Typical entitled and narcissistic man who makes up some illogical excuse to get his way and stomp all over someone else and their desires. 

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    NTA. Unless he owns the house or there are other considerations not in the OP, he wanted the break up, he
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    volunteered to move in with his parents, and he should stay there or find a new place.
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